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Biblical Guidelines for
The experienced Christian counselor, H. NORMAN
WRIGHT, author of Helping Those Who Hurt, says that many
elements are involved in helping a friend:
- look to the Word
of God (Proverbs 3:5-6): if we try to help a friend within our own
strength, we will make mistakes.
- experience "genuine interest
and love" for the individual we are helping. Wright suggests that if we
don't have this, we can't fake it. Pray about your attitude, or point your
friend to someone who could possibly be of more help to them.
- know when to speak, and when not to: A knowledgeable person
chooses words well.
- ask for more information: this
will allow your friend time to talk.
- keep a confidence:
if you are asked not to share information, then keep it to
- show understanding: if you make
inappropriate comments, your friend can feel the painful effects of your
- give tentative (rather than concrete)
suggestions to allow your friend to think of many
- use confrontation:
Confront with grace and understanding, and to allow your friend "to
make better decisions for herself, become more accepting of where she is in
life, and to be less destructive and more productive," Wright says.
Be ready to help and edify your friend,
(Galatians 6:2, Romans 14:19), and give encouragement (Proverbs
Finally, Wright encourages us to "be able to get inside the
other person, to look at the world through her perspective or frame of
reference, and get a feeling for what her world is like."